Not Quite Ready to Forgive.
The holiday season is suppose to be a time for family. Since moving to Texas I will normally talk to my mother and sister by telephone. But this year is different. I have not spoken with either one of them since the summer. We had this big falling out over my daughter, which resulted in me discontinuing our relationship. Let me recap the situation briefly.
Baby Girl(my 15 year old daughter) has been acting out for about two years. It progressively got worse. She started running away, stealing, skipping school, lying exssesively and is sexually active. I have had to deal with all of this on my own, without any help from her father. Of course being her mother I am responsible for everything she does. All of this became very overwhelming and difficult to deal with. Because she was out of control people started looking at me like I was the problem. I had to defend myself constantly. Well Baby Girl would call and talk to my mother and sister all the time and just lie. You would think that they wouldn't fall for it, but instead my mother threaten to call child services on me. My sister told her to call the police.....ARE YOU SERIOUS!!! I am the one who should be calling the police. What that did was open the door for my child to call the police everytime she got mad. We have had them out to our house about 5 times now. My mother made Baby Girl think that she was going to send for her and she would take care of her because I am such a bad mother. Never once thinking about my son. If I am so bad why wouldn't you try and take him too. I would have never told my nephew to call the police on his mom. Especially knowing she is doing the best she can by herself. In the end my daughter is still with me because my mother didn't go through with what she started.
I felt betrayed by both of them. How dare you turn my child against me like that. Trust me when I tell you she will not be calling the police again or she will be living at the police station! At first I was just angry now I'm hurt. The two people who I counted on, couldn't even be supportive to both sides. They took the side of a child who has been in constant trouble inside and outside of the home.
Our relationship will never be the same. My mother always places the blame on others instead of taking responsibility for what she has done. My sister thinks she was being a good aunt by giving her niece bad advice. How do you recover? I'm still working on forgivness, but it is hard. Because it is family you are suppose to just accept them and go on. But at what point do you draw the line? This is not the first time my mother has done some shady stuff. This was the last straw, I can't keep letting her do these things to me. My sister and I have had some disagreements before that resulted in us not speaking for a period of time, but nothing that would make me not want to talk to her anymore. This situation was serious enough to make me say the hell with both of them.
